Traveling, Traveling + 3rd Blogiversary!!!

Greetings! Hope you're somewhere cool - trying to beat the heat. I'm chillin'. Just got back from Dallas. My team is conducting field research for a project and will be traveling for most of this month. Aside from Dallas, we've been to Chicago and Tampa. We'll be going to Phoenix and San Diego next week. I've been to San Diego before (a beautiful place) but I've never been to Phoenix. I'm not sure I'll be able to beat the heat in Phoenix (with 100+ degree temperatures - I can feel my skin burning now - LOL!) but I'll enjoy it as much as our schedule will allow. Though, I am grateful to have a job that affords the opportunities to travel, I must admit - traveling is very exhausting. I feel like I'm going to need a vacation just to recuperate from living out a suitcase these last few weeks. LOL! But it beats being stuck behind a computer in a cubicle everyday. Change of scenery is always a great thing.

And I'm happy to announce BuddahDesmond's Rapture is celebrating its 3rd anniversary this month! I can't believe I've been blogging this long. So much has changed in my life both personally and professionally. And I've written about a range of topics and issues and still have much more to discuss. In honor of this celebration, I'd like to highlight some of my favorite posts over the years. Feel free to take a gander at these and any other posts:

1. The P/H Factor - Phyllis Hyman: Tribute to a Sophisticated Lady
2. I Walked Away
3. 26 Y.O. + Still Learning
4. Politricking
5. H-A-P-P-Y
6. Current Loves (of Music That Is)
7. On Marriage
8. When Hate Kills
9. And Then The Music Slumped
10. Luther Is Love

Other sites to checkout:

1. Pictures and Frames Magazine (I have poetry and music reviews of Chante Moore's Love the Woman and Craig David's Trust Me.)
2. Encore Status (This is the blog for an up-and-coming online magazine of the same name devoted to giving mainstream-like exposure to underground artists, musicians, fashion designers, and filmmakers.)
3. Melange - the Encore Status Mixtape, Vol. 1 (Tired of Top 40 radio? Need something new and different? Then Melange may be right for you!)

Until next time.... Peace, Love, & Many Blessings!

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Now playing: Common - Southside (featuring Kanye West)
via FoxyTunes

The P/H Factor - Phyllis Hyman: Tribute to a Sophisticated Lady

Gonna make changes
Gonna make minds aware
Moving together
Willing to share
There's power in the masses
Collectively we can win

~Phyllis Hyman, "Gonna Make Changes", Somewhere In My Lifetime, 1978

I couldn't let this week end without paying tribute to one of my all-time favorite vocalists, the late, great Phyllis Hyman (July 6, 1949 - June 30, 1995). The music industry hasn't been the same since her untimely passing. If you are unfamiliar with her music - do yourself a favor and please check it out. It's a rarity even to this day that someone comes along as gifted and talented as Hyman was. The singer, songwriter, model, actress and businesswoman would've turned 59 this year.

The P/H Factor
 

The angel with the resonant, rich, beautiful voice;

The Goddess of Love,

Commanding the stage like a queen;

Regal, striking, almost intimidating,

Queen of the blues, pop, soul, jazz, and gospel.

A true Sophisticated Lady,

In a class of her own,

In fact, ahead of her time;

Critically acclaimed yet under-recognized,

A mind-blowing woman with many talents

Who never achieved the stardom she truly deserved.

Yet, she is a legend.

Although you're no longer with us in the physical sense,

Your spirit lives on in your music.

Each time one of your songs plays, you are born again.

We relive the joy and wonder in our memories of you.

You touched us deeply

With your songs of love—

About its many facets, the ups and downs, the joys and the pain.

You took us there;

We were with you each step of the way.

With each note on the musical scale

You left us enraptured,

Capturing us in your mesmerizing essence.

You spoke to us and we could definitely relate.

That's why we will never forget you

And the many gifts you gave to the world.

Phyllis Hyman—the woman, the actress, the fashion model, the singer, the songwriter, and the performer:

You will always remain special,

You will always have a place in our hearts,

And a significant place in history.

One of the world's most beautiful women, with one of the greatest vocal instruments,

You are truly appreciated.

You will forever go on.

Phyllis, you were and still are loved.

Phyllis Hyman's music at Amazon

Have a happy and safe holiday weekend!

© 2012 BuddahDesmond

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Now playing: Phyllis Hyman - Complete Me

via FoxyTunes

Surrender

come to me
let me show you the way to my heart
come with me
let us escape to the place where lovers go to freely
     express their love for each other
stay with me
never let me spend another night alone
lay with me
so that our bodies, souls, and minds can unite as one
let the wonderful beauty of this bond take us where
     it may
let us let go and let love take us away
let us surrender
and give our all to each other with the power of love

~BuddahDesmond

The Love Inside

You can have all the love in the world,
But the love that really counts is the love inside—
The love for self that shines through in each and everything
     you do.
It is only when you can love and accept yourself that you can
     begin to love someone else.
And once this happens,
You will be able to proclaim honestly and passionately,
"I've found true love!"

~ BuddahDesmond

I Walked Away

Slowly surely
I walk away from
self-serving
undeserving
constantly hurting me love
deserting me love
you said, I said, we said
but
~ Jill Scott, "Slowly Surely," Who is Jill Scott? Words & Sounds Vol. 1, 2000

If you haven't figured out from my previous posts yet, DP and I broke up. After 2 1/2 years, I had to walk away. It wasn't the love that I wanted anymore. It wasn't fulfilling my needs. After putting so much into it, I felt slighted. I felt shortchanged. I felt used. Because I wasn't getting back what I was putting in. The effort, the support, the openness wasn't being reciprocated. So I had to move on. The relationship was over long before it ended. I just had yet to open my eyes wide enough to see it. Though I saddened about our relationship's demise, I was thoroughly relieved. Content that I'd finally let go of what had been bringing me down for some time.

While I prefer to be in a relationship, I can do without the suffering, the heartache, the longing, and the pain. Lately, I've been enjoying the single life. I've been enjoying this time of reflection and introspection. I know that the next time will be quite different. And most of all, I'm going into this next period of life and love with no expectations. That way I don't get my feelings hurt too soon, too fast. And though it's only been a few months, new love seems to be on the horizon again. But I'm taking my time with it. No need to rush it. I'm just letting it flow - slowly, surely, easily, naturally. There's no hurrying love. A hurried love is one that will turn on you. It's one that will let you down. One that you won't be able to depend upon. Can't be having that! LOL! Until next time -- love, peace, and many blessings!

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Now playing: Jill Scott - Slowly Surely
via FoxyTunes

Next Time

After this last go round with love,
I've decided—
Instead of lambasting my ex for the wrong done
     to me,
I'm going to focus on me,
Own up to what I did,
Embrace the mistakes—
My faults,
And figure out just what I need to do,
So that next time I don't end up in the same
     situation.

I need to take this time—
Reflect upon me.
This is my time to rectify, recover, release,
     and regroup,
So that next time—
     I'm ready for love,
     fully and completely.

~ BuddahDesmond

Lost In You

An unknown
A stranger
A new being
that I didn't recognize
something you wished you'd left on the shelf
instead of bringing home with you
This foreigner came in and
changed everything
What I used to be
What I used to do
was usurped
forgotten
discarded
The old me became this new being
And I thought nothing of it in the
beginning
I made excuses for you and your
behavior, the things you said, and
the things you did
It was okay
I thought it was me
I was so lost in you
that I lost me

I eventually saw you, me, us
the situation for all that it
was worth (and not worth)
And I, eventually, grew
tired
I was exhausted from giving so much
And nothing being rightfully reciprocated
I was disgusted
Because I bent over backwards
Was hanging out on a limb
Living on the edge
And it seemed you didn't appreciate it
So the good thoughts began to lessen
I dreaded your calls
I was disgusted with you
But I was more so disgusted
with myself for allowing
this to fester
I was so lost in you
That I forgot who I was

So I had to reclaim what
was rightfully mine
to get back to me
I had to let go
I had to embark on a new personal
journey
to find me again
I had to end it with you
So that I could
start anew with me

~ BuddahDesmond

The End

Sad to say
but our union has come to a pass
At a point we were linked like no other
Joined, one
But something seemingly cosmic
changed the feeling
We lost our rhythm
Fell out of sync
Danced to entirely different beats
Some otherworldly thing
changed our space, our time
Though the love remains
All that should hold it together
unraveled
And we began to diverge....

Me
Left feeling the cold
While you were embraced with warmth
Emotions expressed
You say you do
But your actions fail to show that
you understand or know
Where I reside is a place
you can't seem to get to
I've given you directions
but you still end up lost
The sad part is that
you fail to see it

Maybe when you do
A great shift in thought, feeling,
perspective - a realization
will occur
And at that point
You will see not
only where I went wrong
But where you went wrong
where we both went wrong
And you should be able to move on
Hopefully wiser
Having learned a great lesson
about how to love

~ BuddahDesmond

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Now playing: Phyllis Hyman - Souvenirs
via FoxyTunes

26 Y.O. + Still Learning

Wow, it's been a while. You turn around and you find it's been three weeks since your last post. Hope everyone out in blogland is cool. I'm good. Just been busy. Been doing a lot of thinking and reflecting. I recently turned 26 (on February 15th). It was truly one of the best b-day's ever. I was taken out to lunch, had a surprise b-day celebration, and hung out with some friends at a cool bar & lounge in DC. I was tore up (and I mean tore up) for the first time in my life. I had a good time though (and that's all that matters). The tickets for the MJB and Jay-Z concert also went on sale on my b-day. One of my friends luckily scored some the same day and I'll be tagging along. I've never seen either artist live so I'm really excited about it.

Though I'm a year older, I still feel the same. I don't have any qualms or issues with growing older. I embrace it. Seeing those numbers change each year is a blessing. Just being able to get up each day makes me happy. It's as simple as that. Family, friends, good health, job, a home, food, clothes, etc. all make it that much sweeter. At 26, I know there's still more to learn. I'm a student--in this life, for this life--for life. Still so many places to go, so many things to do, so many people to meet. Wherever the journey takes me--that's where I'll be.

Before I head out - please check out Melange, one of the hottest mixtapes online. Brought to you by Encore Status Entertainment (ESE), Melange features a range of music by some of the freshest independent artists around the globe. Tired of top 40 radio? Then Melange may be right for you!

More to come later. Until then.... Peace & Many Blessings!!!




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Now playing: Chaka Khan - Super Life
via FoxyTunes

Politricking

They’re up politricking on the hill,

Taking lobbyists’ dollar bills,

Claiming they keep it real,

When they can’t give us something we can feel.

They make promises they can’t keep,

Forgetting that what they sow, they will reap,

Lyin’ to themselves and others to get a seat,

But when it all falls down the incumbent will get beat.

Your approach is haughty and self-righteous.

You come off cocky, act like you’re the second coming of the Messiah.

So sad—people caught on to bullshit,

Discovered you were only looking out for personal interests.

You’ve got it bad and that ain’t good,

Got the nerve to say you were misunderstood.

You give politics and government a bad name.

Liars, thieves, cheaters, adulterers, and politicians—

People will say they’re all the same.

You’re oblivious to the people you represent;

You act like this is a game when it’s a commitment.

You constantly cut and run and confuse the masses with doublespeak,

While your quest to save moral values has only divided and made us weak.

The time has come,

And the people see you for what you are.

They’re ashamed they let you get this far,

But when the time comes they know exactly what to do:

Find the next best thing and get rid of you.

© 2012 BuddahDesmond

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Now playing: Janet Jackson - Feedback

via FoxyTunes

In Lieu of MLK Day 2008

This past Monday marked the celebration of Martin Luther King Day. Martin Luther King Jr. was a man who gave of himself unselfishly. He devoted his life to the fight for civil rights and equality for all. He led a movement that forever changed American society (and the world). His is a legacy that left an indelible imprint on the hearts and minds of millions. His current depiction however, seems to have many people believing the "I Have a Dream" speech is the only reason why we honor him.

As many leaders before and after him, King was a complex man. People seem to have forgotten, or they simply don't know, just how much he (and many other civil rights activists) did for us. How hard the battle was. How in the face of adversity he remained steadfast. He was a man with a mission - a calling if you will. He was committed to the cause. Determined to do all that was necessary to bring about change in a society that was plagued (and still is) with social ills. My words here, I admit, even fail to do King justice. But it pains me to see his life and his contributions being whittled down to the "I Have a Dream" speech.

If King were alive, I do wonder what his thoughts would be about our society today. In many ways it seems as if we've turned into what he feared the most - a divided society. The haves and the have-nots. The rich and the poor. The well-educated and the poorly-educated. White and Black. Or White and Everybody Else. The very things he was fighting against are the things that separate us. With all this talk about "change" - let's see which of the current presidential candidates will actually stop talking about it and be about it. Martin Luther King, along with many other activists and leaders of his day, set the tone. If you're going to name drop and throw out the "change rhetoric" then you need back it up with action. Only time will tell if any of the candidates (and any us) truly see the light.

Past, Present, and Future

I often wonder if our ancestors are pleased with our progress.

Looking down on us, would they hold their heads high in praise or bow them 
     down in shame?

Would they feel that everything they fought for was in vain?

Would they feel we are living up to the legacy they’ve left behind?

It’s a valid question, considering the disparities within our community.

There are disconnects between generations and classes,

Between faith and moral values,

Between the revolutionary and the righteous,

Between traditional and unconventional,

Between family and community.

Sometimes it seems like we are ghosts of what we were before.

The shades of greatness remain,

But the people have yet to figure out how to channel its power.

All is not lost, yet not all is fully realized.

I hope that our ancestors have not given up on us, the way we have given up on 
     each other.

I hope they feel that we all can come together to believe and dream and fight to 
     win again,

Because it’s there—

It never left.

We were born to survive in even the bleakest situations.

There’s still time to mobilize.

There’s still hope and faith that we can get it together,

and bring everyone to the same place again.

We just can’t forget about what was.

We can’t forget about who fought the many battles and won.

We can’t forget about our ancestors.

We must think of them

Because they are why we are here,

And why we must go on.

© 2012 BuddahDesmond

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Now playing: Kenna - Daylight

via FoxyTunes

Buddah's Thoughts

Just some things that have been running through my mind.

1. I don't make new year's resolutions. I make life changes. And there will be many changes made in the very near future.
2. Well, it looks like DP and I may be living in the same state again sometime early next year. I'm getting excited! I've missed having him near dearly. Once the dates are finalized I've got to start planning for his return. I can't believe we've been together for a little over two years now.
3. Don't you just hate office politics? They can put a damper on an otherwise satisfying work experience. I do my best to avoid them at all costs. I keep all my personal business to myself. Cause the worst thing you can do is tell it to the wrong person. It'll spread around the office quicker than the speed of light. And people can use it against you.
4. Considering recent events, is the nation (and the world) really ready for the U.S. to have its first black president? With all due respect to Barack Obama, I'm just not convinced that it's his time yet. Of course, the primaries and the general election in November (and events thereafter) will tell the story.
   
5. Hell, is the nation (and the world) ready for Hillary Clinton to be president of the U.S.? With all due respect to rapper/actress Eve, Hillary Clinton is the "real pitbull in a skirt." Need I say more?
6. I liken Huckabee, Romney, Giuliani, and even McCain to revolving doors. They swing more ways on issues than a bisexual in the bedroom. Now, there's nothing wrong with changing your mind. There's nothing wrong with broadening your perspective. And there's nothing wrong with changing your opinions or views on certain issues. There is a problem however, when these things are changed to gain the support of a group people for votes. If people can't except you for all of your glory, excess, foolishness, and pain, it's their loss.
7. After reading about Benazir Bhutto's assassination, I had an eerie feeling that some real serious shit is about to go down. Everybody beware.
   
8. If I hear about another celebrity being arrested for a DUI I'm going to go on vigilante campaign to exchange celebrity driver's licenses for chauffeurs.
   
9. Looks like Paris Hilton got cut off. Grandpa is giving 97% of his fortune to charity. See what happens when you show your ass and dirty up the family name?
10. I love Mya like the next fan, but seriously, what's going on? She's been pushed back more times than a Kelly Rowland record. She called her new album Liberation and now she's like a caged bird that nobody wants to hear sing. Now, her single "Ridin'" was okay (at best), but "Ayo" and "Lock U Down" were garbage. Come a little harder next time Mya.
11. There were some really great releases in 2007 for music. I was really surprised. Some release days I just went for broke. I was like a kid in a candy store. I couldn't decide whose album I wanted more so I just bought everything.
    
12. If I had to tally my favorite R&B/Soul releases from male artists this year, the following would be on the list: Rahsaan Patterson (Wine & Spirits), Musiq Soulchild (Luvanmusiq), Ne-Yo (Because of You), Mario (Go), Trey Songz (Trey Day), Tank (Sex, Love, & Pain), Chris Brown (Exclusive) and Joe (Ain't Nothin' Like Me). Though they lean a little more on the jazzy side, I can't forget about Will Downing (After Tonight) or Raul Midon (A World Within A World). Hope I'm not forgetting anyone....
    
13. Aside from the singles already released on Jill Scott's latest album The Real Thing, I love "Crown Royal," "Epiphany," "All I," "Whenever You're Around," "Come See Me," "How It Make You Feel," and "Just Wanna Be Loved."
    
14. I love the new Janet song "Feedback". It's very different. Totally left of what's expected of her. I must've listened to at least 100 times since I got it. Can't wait to hear the new album Discipline, to be released February 26th.
    
15. 2008 looks like it could be a banner year with new releases from Mariah Carey, Whitney Houston, Janet Jackson, and Madonna. Mary J. Blige has set the tone quite nicely. If all goes well, it'll feel like 1993/1998 all over again. Looks like they're about to put all the divas-in-training back in their place!
16. 2008 will also mark the return of several other noteworthy favorites such as: Maxwell, Erykah Badu, Lalah Hathaway, Teedra Moses, Van Hunt, Lenny Kravitz, Faith Evans, and Mos Def to name a few.
17. Isn't it funny now how all the pop artists want to be down? Seems like every pop tart wants to make urban album with urban producers. I'm not hating but....YAWN!
18. I absolutely love Phyllis Hyman (and I mean love!). She's legendary. Which is why I was so happy when I came across the website for the book Strength of a Woman: The Phyllis Hyman Story. This biography was written by Jason A. Michael. I'll be checking this book out real soon.
    

And finally, have a very happy new year! May the year ahead be everything you want and more.

Peace, Love, and Many Blessings!

~ BuddahDesmond
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Now playing: Joss Stone - Bad Habit
via FoxyTunes

Simply Wondering

Lately I find
You coming across my mind
More often than I’d care to say
It’s been some time
Since we’d last seen or spoken to each other
So it should be okay
If I care or wonder how you are

For a short, but significant moment in my life
You were the one
It was a love we shared
That I’d never experienced
Or could compare to anything before or after
I’d found happiness
In a new and exciting way
I’d found another way to spend my time
Without worry or apprehension
I didn’t mind making
Time for you

So when our lives shifted us into other directions
I was saddened
Deeply hurt
But I knew it was best
For both of us
We had to move forward
We ended on good terms
But since that time
We lost touch
And I was simply wondering
How you were
What you’ve been up to
And if I could still call you a friend

Though I may not be in love with you
Forever, I’ll love you

~ BuddahDesmond

Happy holidays! Be safe. Enjoy!

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Now playing: Keyshia Cole - Give Me More
via FoxyTunes

Tag! I'm It....

Sean Stone tagged me. The rules of the game are:

• Link to the person that tagged you and post the rules on your blog.
• Share 7 random and/or weird facts about yourself.
• Tag 7 random people at the end of your post.
• Let each person know they've been tagged by leaving a comment on their blog.

1) Contrary to popular belief, I’m very shy. I’ve always been. It’s not as bad as it was when I was a kid though. When I’m in a new environment or in a group with people I don’t know well, I sometimes have a hard time opening up and reaching some level of comfort.

2) My shyness may have something to do with anxiety. Though I carry myself in a confident manner, I can be self-conscious. I don’t want to make a fool of myself or say the wrong things. So I’m very careful of how I conduct myself.

3) Since I was a kid, I’ve had prophetic dreams. These dreams have included visions of future life events with people and in places that I’ve actually encountered. And when these events happen, it’s like déjà vu (“I’ve been here before….”).

4) I’m oblivious to the attention I get from people when I’m out. It usually takes people I’m hanging with to say that someone is checking me out or trying to get my attention before it registers.

5) Though I went to school for IT, I have a love/hate relationship with technology. Though many of our favorite technologies have become modern day conveniences, they lose their luster when you find out those who created them failed to consider the negative impact and disadvantages when these technologies are used for malevolent purposes. And those who feel the fallout from this the most, tend to be us, the consumers. With technology, the focus should be less on money and prestige and more on value, quality, security, and usability. (I could go on and on about this but I’ll save this topic for another day and another post! ☺ )

6) Since I was 11 or 12, I’ve written close to 900 poems, songs, short stories, and other prose pieces. I’m not one to boast but this is an astounding feat even to me. The issue I continue to have is figuring out the proper avenues for my work and the best route to go with publishing – independent or mainstream. I’d love to devote more time to this but the regular J-O-B is taking all of the limelight. ☺

7) Looking back on how much of my life has been devoted to performing, writing, and art, it’s much easier for me to express myself creatively than otherwise. It’s definitely a divine gift. I’m the vessel through which the creativity and the artistry flows. It’s not me—it’s through me. And I’m eternally grateful to the Creator for that.

Tag! You’re it!

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Now playing: Millie Jackson - All The Way Lover
via FoxyTunes

H-A-P-P-Y

Happiness seems to be a fleeting thing as of late
The closer I get to it the further it seems to move away
I know you can't find it in others
And it rarely, if ever, can be found in tangible
     possessions
It's a right we all have
But many seldom find

In my case
It's a longing and loneliness that haunts my existence
That nothing seems to distill or quench
I hunger for things I have to wait for
I thirst for a time in my life when I'm completely free
     of the past's pull and society's bite
I'm yearning for something I think is simple

I've got a history of high expectations and asking for
     too much
And it's even surprising to me when the conditions
     are met
But this is simple in a conventional and spiritual sense
Nothing too complex
     (or so it seems)

I guess I'll just have to dig a little deeper
Look inside a little longer
Till I find all that adds up to being
     H-A-P-P-Y

~ BuddahDesmond

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Now playing: Annie Lennox - Primitive
via FoxyTunes

Relax, Relate, Release, Regroup!

It's about that time. I feeling the need to get rid of some dead weight. I don't need the start of the new year to signify change. It's just a feeling that you get when you know you're veering off track. You've been led astray and you're trying to get back to where you need to be. Somewhere amidst graduation, the new job, the relationship, moving, traveling, and all of the family/personal drama - I got lost. I got caught up. I lost focus on what I set out to achieve. I let everything (and everyone) dictate what my existence should be. But no more! Never again. As the saying goes, "I may be down but never out!"

I know this is shorter than my average post, but sometimes being concise is the only way to get the point across. I'll be back with another post within the week. Hope everyone in the blogworld is well. Until next time.... Peace, Love and Many Blessings!

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Now playing: Teena Marie - Ooo La La La
via FoxyTunes

Current Loves (of Music That Is)

The state of music today is.... Uhmmm...... Hmmm... It's.....? For one of very few times in my life I am speechless. But I will say this.... If you're listening to mostly mainstream music, then it's understandable when someone says no one makes good let alone real music anymore. But the truth is people are still making real music. The problem is exposure. The crop of real singers and musicians only get airplay on certain stations and video channels. If they've been in the industry for a little while, it's a miracle if they're even getting any airplay. So if you're looking for substance, you need to look under radar. Here's a small sample of what I'm digging right now.

Teedra Moses - Complex Simplicity
Teedra Moses is one of the most underrated singer-songwriters in the game. She's written or co-written songs like Christina Milian's "Dip It Low," Mary J. Blige's "So Lady," Macy Gray's "Finally Made Me Happy" and Trina and Kelly Rowland's "Here We Go" to name a few. She's released several mixtapes. And her music's been featured on Noah's Arc. She has a funky, sassy, and soulful style that manages to be both sweet and street (think Cherrelle or Pebbles meets Mary J. Blige). Her music sits somewhere between hip-hop soul and neo-soul. She holds nothing back lyrically (especially on songs like "You Better Tell Her" and "Backstroke"). And she's no slouch vocally either. She uses her smooth, sexy, flexible soprano to great affect on songs like "I Think of You," "You'll Never Find (A Better Woman)" and "Outta My Head." Having been released in 2004, it's a shame this record failed to get the attention it truly deserved. But no fret here. Word of mouth, her songwriting, and live performances are helping to get Teedra Moses where she needs to be. With the next release The Young Lioness upon the horizon, johnny come lately exposure is never a bad thing.

Urban Mystic - Ghetto Revelations II
You can't help but to feel this brotha. It's all in the voice. A voice that evokes the spirit of Sam Cooke, Otis Redding, and Wilson Pickett. He has a raspy baritone that's raw, passionate, and soulful. He's able to make you feel every word. It's everything your favorite soul singer is capable of. Urban Mystic is an old soul who easily mixes the old school with the new school on songs like "It's You," "Where Were You?" and "Let's Make a Change." He's at his best on gospel-tinged ballads like "I Refuse," "Your Portrait," and the Sam Cooke remake "A Change Is Gonna Come." He's not your average male R&B/Soul singer (thank God). His talent goes much deeper than many of his contemporaries. Now, only if he can get a few platinum records.

Chrisette Michele - I Am
I love Chrisette Michele. Absolutely love her. I think I've listened to her music everyday for the last month-and-a-half. Aside from Teedra Moses, I have to admit--I haven't felt this way about a female R&B/Soul singer since Jill Scott came along. If you aren't familiar with her name, you've probably heard her beautiful voice on Jay-Z's "Lost One" and Nas's "Can't forget About You," "Still Dreaming," and "Hope." If you've lost all faith in R&B/Soul music, it will be restored after listening to I Am. She has a voice that evokes Billie Holiday, Sarah Vaughan, and Natalie Cole. Though she has an admirable range, she doesn't need to resort to vocal acrobatics to emote (a lesson that many of her contemporaries need to learn--well the ones that can sing at least). Aside from the singles "If I Have My Way" and "Your Joy," standouts include "Is This The Way Love Feels," "In This For You," "Golden," "Work It Out," and "Be O.K." She'll be in DC this weekend at The Black Cat and I'm going to do whatever I can to be there.

Vikter Duplaix - Bold and Beautiful
There are so many adjectives to use to describe this Philly brotha's music. Vikter Duplaix is a singer, songwriter, producer, musician, and DJ. He composed the score for the DL Chronicles and has produced music for Vivian Green, Musiq Soulchild, Jill Scott, and Erykah Badu. His music is what I'll call, electronic chillout, lounge soul. It's lush and can be very sensual (Duplaix will definitely set the mood right). Using both electronic and organic elements (and his sexy voice), it mixes hip-hop, soul, funk, jazz, Afrobeat, and drum 'n' bass. Duplaix's music has the versatility and otherworldly appeal of Sade and Andre 3000. If you like them, along with Esthero or Lisa Shaw, then you'll more than likely love Duplaix's music. Highlights include "Stimulation (with Ms. Saigon)," "Fade It," "Another Great Love Gone By (with Esthero)," "Nothing Like Your Touch," "I See The Sun (with Tye Tribbett & GA)," and "The Way That I Feel.

Amerie - Because I Love It
Ok. You're probably thinking, "Something here doesn't quite belong." Well, I can't help it. Everytime Amerie releases a new album, I seem to fall more in love with her. Because I Love It is her third release, only available on import in the US at this point. Like Kelis, she's on a label that has no idea what to do with her and she seems to get more love overseas than in her own country. This album also is the first without production from longtime collaborator Rich Harrison. Amerie wrote, arranged, and produced much of the album herself. It's actually quite good. She channels her love of 80s music on many tracks like "Some Like It," "Crush," and "Crazy Beautiful." She also includes more ballads and mid-tempo tracks this time around like "That's What U R," "Paint Me Over," "When Loving U Was Easy," and the inspirational "All Roads." And you know she couldn't stray too far from her signature sound--aggressive drums, heavy percussion, layered vocals--on tracks like "Hate 2 Love U," "Gotta Work" and "Make Me Believe." Because I Love It does a pretty good job at showcasing the many sides of Amerie and her love for her art. The real kicker here will be seeing if this record gets an actual release date here in the US and decent marketing. And once it's released, how well it will do in setting her apart from her contemporaries.

Robin Thicke - The Evolution of Robin ThickeI agree with Jill Scott in that soul comes in all colors. Gloria Estefan, Celia Cruz, Bonnie Raitt, Joan Osborne, Janis Joplin, Bobby Caldwell, Hall & Oats, Teena Marie, Lisa Stansfield, Swing Out Sister and Jon B all have/had soul. Robin Thicke is another name to add to that list. Who would've thought that Alan Thicke's son would grow up to be a soul singer? Well he did and turned out to be a pretty damn good one. It's apparent that Thicke grew up listening to a lot of soul music. You can hear shades of Marvin Gaye, Al Green, Prince, and Stevie Wonder throughout. However, it's remarkably his own effortless style. (Take note Timberlake.) There is not one bad cut on this album. It's sung, written, arranged, and produced very well. I'm willing to go out on a limb and say The Evolution of Robin Thicke is a modern masterpiece. He's going to be around for sometime. And the music, I'm sure, will only get better.

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Now playing: Chaka Khan - The Drama
via FoxyTunes

If I Had My Way

Another month gone by as the summer of 2007 is jockeying for the title of "fastest summer ever". Next thing you know everyone will talking about XMAS shopping. That is the very last thing I want to think about. So what's been going on in Buddah's world? Not a lot and I'm enjoying it that way.... Well, at least for this moment.

After being the dynamic duo at work, my supervisor and I, we are now a team of four. We've welcomed two new team members who are very intelligent, creative, and enthusiastic. I think they'll do very well. We'll be able utilize our resources better and accomplish a great deal more. I'm looking forward to the prospects.

After gallivanting through the streets nights and weekends for the last several months (like a gypsy with no home), I've taken reprieve. This is probably the second weekend in some time where I did absolutely nothing. Isn't nice to chill out for a change? I'm sure all of that will change next month. The calendar is beginning to fill up with engagements. More on that as that in other posts.

I also spent some time at home. My mother has been experiencing a lot of pain lately due to osteo-arthritis in her legs and bone spurs in her lower back. I had to help set up the office so she would be able to work from home. She's loving it and wishes she could work from home until she retires. If you had to deal with the b.s. from the cunts that she works with on a day to day basis you'd prefer to work from home too. She's been working from for about a month now. She experiences some pain every now and then but she doesn't let it stop her. She's always in good spirits. And she's been through a lot. She had her last chemo treatment at the end of April and the cancer is in remission now. She's been a trooper through it all. If there is anyone I can look to for inspiration it's my mother. Because of my mother and the example she's set I know that anything is possible. I'm happy she's still with us.

As for things between DP and I, they are a lot better than they were six weeks ago. We've worked through our issues and we're going to be fine. I didn't want to walk away from what we have and neither did he. We just had to get over ourselves and be honest with each other. Things happen. There's always a reason. Nothing is ever perfect. And this was our latest test (many more to come I'm sure). Of course things would be better if he was here permanently. If I had my way - he would be here. We would physically be together. But anything worth having is worth waiting for. The date of his arrival is set for sometime in November. And the anticipation and excitement continues to build....

And here's to two years of blogging! "On and on. And on and on. My cipher keeps moving like a rolling stone." E. Badu couldn't have said it any better. Until next time.... Be true. Appreciate what you have. Let the blessings flow.

Back to the Middle

It's me again.... I'm back after what seems like ages. Like TV..... It seems like I go through more mid-season replacements than ABC. I can't make any promises the next time, cause who knows what will happen in this show called "Buddah's Life." I can say that life has been exciting these last several weeks. Exciting, entertaining, depressing, scary, emotional, extraordinary.... You get the picture. I attended and volunteered at DC Black Pride (my first time doing either and I had a great time), went to a special screening of the DL Chronicles (acted, written, and directed very well), attended a conference in Austin, TX (met some really nice people while roasting alive in that Texas heat), and had a very brief rendezvous with someone I'll call QD. For anyone who's been reading over the past few months, you're probably wondering - well isn't Buddah in a long-distance relationship with DP? Are they still together? Did Buddah cheat on DP? Well, yes, yes, and no.

We're still together. As much as we've been trying to make it work, it hasn't been easy. We were doing fine but the distance has been taking its toll on the relationship. (15 months and counting, 5000+ miles away, 5-6 hour time difference depending on the time of year--you get it the picture?) I don't care but after a certain period of time - talking on the phone isn't enough. You need something a little more substantial. At a certain point, we started talking about having our cake and eating it too while we're away from each other. DP said that because of our situation he wouldn't feel bad if I had my fun on the side as long as I told what I was doing and when. He said he wouldn't be mad as long as I was honest with him. I found this hard to believe. In the back of my mind I knew this was a big test. Well as I hinted earlier, something did happen (with QD). Wasn't planned or expected (and damn if it wasn't GOOD!!!). Guess I failed the test, huh? Oh well..... So I told DP about it and, as I had expected, he flipped. We fussed, fought, and argued and things just haven't been right since. I'm like Faith Evans (without the coke) trying to figure out where we stand.

Will we come to our senses and get it together? Will we take a break until we're at least back in the same state? Or will we be like that famous jazz standard and call the whole thing off? Stay tuned for this is an episode in "Buddah's Life" with multiple parts. Until next time, don't be as wild and crazy as I've been. Second thought, be wild and crazy. Just try to get back to the middle. As a very dear friend told me, this is your time. It's time to do for you. Do what makes you happy. Don't let anyone steal your shine!

Something Is Better Than Nothing

Well it looks like I'm on the one post a month plan. I really wish I could post on a (semi-) regular basis but with all that's going on (and with my ADD-LOL!) it's difficult. There's always hope for the future. So how have I been? Ok, I guess. Busy as usual. Seems like I'm always playing catch up.

Work is good. Duties are increasing. I've been doing a lot of planning and preparation for the next round of user testing. It looks like we'll be staying put for this and the other testing projects in the queue. If we do any traveling it'll probably be sometime this summer (or early fall). In June I will be going to a conference in Austin, TX though. It'll be my first time going to TX. I'm excited. This will be yet another great networking opportunity in a great location. I can hardly wait. I'll be sure to pack comfortable clothes since it will more than likely be HOT.

Family life has been eventful to say the least. For the last several months, several of members of my family have been ill. Some in and out the hospital. My mother recently finished with chemotherapy and after being out for six months, will be returning to work soon. My grandfather was in the hospital for heart and kidney problems. My grandmother just got out of the hospital this weekend for heart issues. And I just got word today that my great-grandfather is in the hospital for what may have been a stroke. (And my other grandmother was in and out of hospital due to illness as well). As my grandmother said earlier today, "When it rains-it pours." All we can do is hope and pray that all will be well. Whatever The Creator deems necessary is what will be.

I'll be taking some vacation days around Memorial Day weekend (finally). Though I'll be staying the DC area, I'll be attending and volunteering at some of the DC Black Pride events. This will be my first attending (and volunteering) at a Pride. I have absolutely no idea what to expect. I just know that I better behave myself since I'm already spoken for (LOL!). If nothing else, I'll have some fun and meet some new people.

I've also been trying to get reacquainted with the DC area. So much has changed since I was away at school. What used to be so familiar has become quite unfamiliar to me. It would probably be a little easier to navigate if I had as many friends here as I did when I was at school. It seems like I had to start all over again in the social department of my life. I'm not sure that I'm like this aspect too much right now.... But I guess I just have to keep rolling with the punches. Maybe the social butterfly will have returned by summer.

DP and I have seem to be having quite a few disagreements too. We've said some things too each that we didn't mean to say. You know how that goes. I know I've been more hot-tempered than usual. I think it's due to us being away from each other for so long. This long distance thing is killing me. I'm beginning to see why long distance relationships don't last and why people avoid them at all costs. Long distance relationships are hard work. It's so hard, so very hard. It's so easy when you have easy access to each other (when you live in the same city or at least in the same state). But when you're thousands of miles apart it's rough. When you really need or want each other you can't be together. And that's probably the hardest part of it all. Sure you've got phones, emails, IMs, text messages, videos, and pictures. It's not the same and it will never add up to the real thing. In the same breath, I guess it's better than nothing. We haven't killed each other or broken up. These trials will only make our relationship and us that much stronger..... As I continue to yearn for DP's love and anticipate the next moment we'll share together....

Check out my reviews at Pictures and Frames Magazine. Until next time, peace, love, and many blessings! Be safe!

Coming Around Again

Hello All! It's been too long. Life is crazy busy right now. I just back from a business trip last night and may be going on two more trips within the next month or so. There are several releases coming up for new applications at work so it looks like I'll be working a little later and traveling more. With the schedule filling up and time not being my own, I ask myself one question.... "When am I taking a vacation?" And the reply, "I have no idea but it better be soon!" I have no idea where (or when) but I hope it's somewhere far from the east coast. I would really love to leave the country.... Maybe go to Paris, London, or Capetown.... But lack of planning (financially and otherwise) puts this temporarily on hold. If I go anywhere it will probably be somewhere within the 48 contiguous United States.

Though work has been busy it's been going very well. We recently had performance appraisals and I found out that I got a raise. My boss told me that he was very happy with the progress I've made. He went on to say that my work has been excellent and that I have exceeded expectations in several areas. And if my progress is any indication, he anticipates event greater things from me in the future. Hearing this made my day! I was very proud (and grateful for the validation).

Aside from work, I've been hanging out with a few people from work and catching up with friends. Despite the various mode of communications we have today, I am finding it increasing harder to stay in touch with folks. Emails, voicemails, text messages, IMs, blogs--it's starting to be a bit overwhelming. There's only so much my attention span can tolerate before experiencing communication (and information) overload!

There's a lot more going on but too much to discuss for this post. Until next time, I hope you have a happy and safe weekend! Peace!

Normal?

What is normal?

This question has popped up a lot lately.

Is it pink hair, tattoos, body piercings, and dark clothes?

Is it oversized hoodies, baggy designer jeans, Timbs, and over-the-top bravado and swagger?

Is it the $900,000 condo in a metropolitan area?

Or a cookie cutter single family home in the suburbs?

Is it blue collar or white-collar work?

Or how about a get-rich-quick plan?

Is it traditional? Or is it conventional?

Is it revelatory? Or is it revolutionary?

Is it the big house with seven bedrooms, six full baths, a picket fence, Lexus GS, two kids, and an American Bulldog?

Or is it an unashamed, refusal of the American dream?

Is it conservative or liberal?

Is it republican or democrat?

Is it capitalist, socialist, or communist?

Or is it apolitical?

Is it mainstream or underground?

Is it male, female, or trans?

Is it straight, gay, bi-, multi-, or asexual?

Is it married, common law, or a civil union?

Is it Christian, Hindu, Muslim, Buddhist, or atheist?

And is race, class, or culture a factor?

Wait a minute …

Does normal even know what normal is anymore?

Let’s face it:

We’ve come a long way…. Or have we? (Okay; that’s another poem for another day!)

We’ve evolved into so many different things

With a variety of tastes, likes, dislikes, desires, wants, needs, and dreams.

But the more things change, the more things stay the same

If you look a little bit closer, we tend to be more alike than we are unalike.

So instead of forcing people into what we think is right,

Or how we think people should live

(Translation: what we’re comfortable with),

Just let people be.

And remember—just because it was right for you don’t mean that it’s right for everyone else.

© 2012 BuddahDesmond

SomberHappyDays

We're in the thick of the holiday season now. So you know what that means? The year is just about over. It's the most wonderful time of year they say. I beg to differ. It's a mixture of extremes - both good and bad. The bad - people getting killed over playstations, fighting over the absence of holiday paraphernalia in public, an unjust war raging, and leaders who continue to dodge the truth, lack integrity and accountability (and that's a brief list). The good - the Dems winning control of Congress (not getting my hopes up just yet), Donald Rumsfeld getting fired, and the general public finally getting the wool from over their eyes. And for those of us who were fortunate enough - we're still living. If you've got the essentials in life - then you've got every reason to be happy. Family, friends, a home, food, clothes, love, a decent job, good health - what more can you ask for? In the same breath, it's these things that so many of us take for granted.

We often forgot how fortunate we are. And it's for the many things we have in this life that we should be not only thankful but grateful. And if you can, to try to give back to those who provided for your and those who have fallen on hard times. Instead of going for broke on Black Friday and the shopping days leading up to Christmas, how about putting your time, money, and energy into something more meaningful? Like building up your community, supporting the causes and volunteering at the organizations that really need the help, or simply investing more into your own family legacy.

I don't mean to be on my soapbox but things have hit me a little harder this year than most. Maybe it's because I realized that all of the things I used to value don't really mean anything. And the things I used to worry about would only create more stress and heartache, which only makes things unnecessarily worse. There's so much that I have and I've only begun to really appreciate it. I cannot take for granted what I've been given and those who provided for and supported me along the way. Therefore, I have to continue the mission that I started while back in school. And that's simply doing for others what's been done for me. And it doesn't have to be anything big. Sometimes it's the small things that have the greatest impact. And it's not only going to be during this time of year. If I have my way, it'll year round. It all begins with us. So many of us say we want the world to be better. But if we want it to be better, we have to make ourselves better before we can expect the world to follow suit.

More to come later. Until then, I wish you all the best!

Buddah's Thoughts

I had some things on my mind that I wanted to share. Some of which are related to the events--political, personal and otherwise--of the last few weeks.

1) I’m sure several millions of people are happy that the Democrats are in control of both chambers of Congress. Considering the events of the last four years, it was a sweet victory that many were predicting and anticipating weeks/months before the elections. The people finally spoke. They were sick of all the lying, cut-and-run shenanigans, and hypocritical philandering. The people finally woke up. And I guess you could say the Democrats finally woke up too. After all, it only took four years for the Democrats to get some balls and stand up for what they believe in. And now that the Democrats have control of Congress, the crème de la crème here is whether they will actually use their power to make a difference. Several reports have been written (see USA Today for 11/10/06) about how both parties are committed to working together to make a difference. Call me a cynic or pessimist, but I find it hard to swallow this premature joining of forces. How can both parties collectively join forces when they can barely do it independently? Maybe I’m being too hard on our representatives. But as citizens it is our job to be hard on our elected officials. Especially when they are slipplin’ and trippin’. Let there be any scandals in the Democratic Party and we’ll probably be in the same place all over again. I’m not going to jump on this bandwagon anytime soon. I’ll believe the rhetoric when I see some results. All I can say is the next two years should be quite interesting.

2) And in lieu of the Democrats recent victory, I’m convinced Donald Rumsfeld was fired. They can say whatever they wish when they address the public during press conferences, but we all know the real deal. Again, that idiot did not resign he was FIRED!!!

3) There really is no need to start worrying about who’s going to run for President in 2008. We need to focus on the here and now. Besides, whoever inherits the mess that the Bush administration has left behind will have their work cut out for them. I’ll be praying for them.

4) I was so happy to see the recent pictures of Whitney Houston at the 17th Carousel of Hope Ball. She looks amazing. I really hope (as I’m sure many others do) that she pulls through this time. Getting away from Bobby may be just what she needs to do it. And good news for all Whitney Houston fans is she’s already in the studio working on new music. And if all goes well, it will be another great triumph in her legendary career and yet another of the music industry’s greatest comebacks.

5) I don't know if it's just me or not but didn't you find many of the high profile, highly anticipated releases of the year been downright mediocre (at best)? Save for a few, I have not been impressed by much of the much released this year. What happened to R&B/Soul music this year? Where is Maxwell? Where is Musiq? Where is Erykah Badu? Where is Lauryn Hill? Has anyone seen D’Angelo? A few years ago, it seemed like everytime you turned around a new release by a major or up-and-coming artist was being released. Or maybe the industry is saving all the good stuff for the holiday shopping season.

6) Justin Timberlake should be very thankful and grateful to Timbaland for lending his creative genius to his latest release LoveSexy/FutureSounds. Cause he may not have had two number one hit songs (“SexyBack” and “My Love” feat. T.I.) out the box otherwise. And while we’re on the topic of JT.... It has to be said – Justin Timberlake did not bring sexy back. It never left!!!

7) And where are all of the male soul singers? Not these mediocre, Stevie Wonder, Michael Jackson wannabes that get played every five minutes---but the real soul singers. There’s Will Downing, Rahsaan Patterson, Urban Mystic, Jaheim, Kenny Lattimore, Gerald LeVert (RIP), and where do you go from there…. Many of the aforementioned artists don’t get airplay on top 40 or major urban stations. I guess there’s no interest in people with real talent and who make real music in the mainstream anymore.

8) Why do long distance relationships have to be so hard? I’ve been in a relationship for almost a year now (it’ll be a year in December). Of the time that we’ve been dating, we’ve been together physically in the same state for only four months. We are 5 time zones and several thousand miles apart. It’s really starting to get on my nerves. I can’t stand it! If I was thinking with my other head I could’ve said fuck it a while back and played the fields. But I don’t get down like that. And besides, I’m not trying to mess up a good thing. If anything, our time apart has helped the situation. It’s made things stronger. And our time of being apart is coming to close next month, right around our anniversary, and this time it will be for good. Thankfully, cause I don’t either of us would be able to stand being away from each other that much longer.

9) After getting my first big job after graduation and moving into my own place I’ve learned that being on your own is not easy. I’m beginning to see why so many people stay with their parents, live with or depend upon others for so long. And I now know what my mother meant when she would say she was broke and I would ask for something and she’d say we didn’t have any money for that.... She would tell me that what I was asking for was a want and not a need. If it didn’t have anything to do with keeping a roof over our head, food in our stomachs, and clothes on our backs, it wasn’t a priority. I don’t know that I understood it completely when I was little but I definitely understand it now. Budget, budget, budget!!!

10) After I finish traveling for work, I’ve convinced myself that I need to join a local gym and get back on my workout regimen. I’ve been off of it a few months and it is starting to show. And I’m not liking it one bit. I may go all out this time and get a trainer. I have some goals and I know what it is that I have to do but I do need some motivation. Eventually I’d like to have a home gym. I’ve got some space so it could work.

11) And sadly.... Rest in peace to two beloved people that we lost this week – Ed Bradley, a pioneer for Blacks in journalism and Gerald LeVert, one of the greatest soul singers/performers of his generation. They will truly be missed.

Buddah Returns

Damn.... I haven't made a post since August 12th.... I didn't know it'd been that long. Well, I'm back!!! Don't know for how long but I'm here nonetheless. Every so often you life takes you away from everything. It forces you to take a step back and appreciate, evaluate and just breathe!!! The last post I wrote a few days before I started my new job. I've been working for a little over two months. So far so good. No complaints. I haven't encountered any drama or met any people that I'd like to give a severe tongue-lashing to or cut (or both)... LOL! I've got plenty to do to keep me busy. And starting next week, my team will be traveling to a few regions to do some user testing on a few web applications that will roll out soon. It should be interesting I'm sure. And who can complain about free travel?

The only downer about my job is that my supervisor will be taking a new job in a different department after the New Year. Just when you're getting used to the way things work - change happens. And he was already in search of finding another analyst for the team. So that means we'll be looking for two new hires. Oh well... More to look forward to. As long as my supervisor gives me a good evaluation before he leaves or when my orientation/probation period is up (which ever comes first) - that's all that matters. Oh yeah, the orientation/probation period is six months. This is the longest I've ever had to endure a period of sorts. But the positives outweigh the negatives because you get more than enough time to get comfortable with your job, your team, and culture of the organization. Enough time to learn from your mistakes, prove yourself, and impress the people that approve the timesheets.

What else has happened? I moved into my own place almost three weeks ago. So I'm really feeling grown now. Oh the bills! NOT FUN! LOL! It's going to be a little tight through the holidays but the most important thing is that I have a roof over my head, food in my belly, and clothes on my back. I'm slowly but surely making touches of me into my new home. I figure I should be fully acclimated by the time my orientation/probation period is up - which is around my birthday, mid February. Maybe then I can throw a little house warming party. Mmmm....

I'm halfway through Juan Williams's book Enough: The Phone Leaders, Dead-End Movements, and Culture of Failure That Are Undermining Black America--and What We Can Do About It. An excellent, very well written book. It's a must read. I'm also loving Janet's 20 Y.O., Monica's The Makings of Me, Amos Lee's Supply and Demand, Natalie Cole's Leavin', The Brand New Heavies Get Used To It, Ben Harper's Both Sides of the Gun, India.Arie's Testimony, Vol. 1, Life and Relationship, and George Benson & Al Jarreau's Giving It Up.

That's about it for now. I better continue to listen out for the door. My new furniture is supposedly on the way. I had to take off today so it better be here TODAY. I don't want to unleash the hounds but if I have to I will.... LOL! Until next time, peace, love and many blessings!

Getting Ready for the DC Takeover!

In just a few days, I'll be on a plane headed back to my beloved DC. I can't wait! Most of my stuff is already on its way home. Just got to pack my bags for the plane and do the last round of trash and cleanup and it's a wrap. I'm very excited. But all of this is kind of surreal. It always seems like everything major in my life happens so fast. I barely have enough time to get acquainted after moving so quickly from one thing to the next. But I'm going into this new phase with a clear, open mind and a positive attitude. I'm sure everything will be fine. And if anything crazy pops up, I'll find a reasonable way to handle.

This move is kind of bittersweet too. Visiting places in the area I would frequent--knowing that this would be the last time (or last visit for awhile) that I would be present. I'm leaving a place that I've spent a significant period of time in. It was an environment that fostered so much knowledge, wisdom, and growth--mentally, physically, socially, and personally. I've met so many great people--many of which who've become very good friends, mentors, and great social contacts. I've had the experience of rising, falling, and rising again. After all that I've endured, I feel like I'm ready to face whatever may come my way. I've certainly come into my own up here in Rochester, NY aka Da ROC.

But Da ROC is also a place that I've despised too.... Any chance I was given to get away, believe me, it was taken without hesitation! The lack of sunlight. Feeling like you're buried under an artic tundra with all of this snow, sleet and freezing rain. The difficulty of finding something of interest to do when you're bored (not a problem in DC). The pain of everything closing so early (definitely not a problem in DC). Poor public transportation system (not to worry about in DC either). All the unnecessary drama and bullshit you have to go thru to get the degrees. Wankstas and fake thugs (this is a problem not limited to Da ROC I know).... Though it's hard to admit, I'll miss this place. Now it's time to start the next phase of life in a familiar city. But the difference will be experiencing it, this time, all on my own.

Hope you've recovered from the serious meltdown that occured this week. It was hotter than a witch's coochie outside. I was out for a little bit and hurried my ass back inside so I could get to the AC! This is not my weather. If the craziness of the weather conditions isn't a sign of things to come then I don't know what is. Oh well, it's 2 in the morning. I need to get ready for my date with the pillow. I've been seriously lacking in the sleep department. With work starting in another week, I have to make sure I get as many hours in as I can (sleeping on the job is not an option).

Have a wonderful weekend!

BuddahDesmond's Rapture - 1st Anniversary!!!

Wow.... I’ve been blogging for one year. Time sure does have a way of escaping you. So much has happened. Where to begin? Well, I successfully completed all of the classes for my masters and graduated. I started writing as a music reviewer for my school magazine and for my friend Lily's online magazine Pictures and Frames (I’ve been on a hiatus though due to school and trying to find my first real job). I received several certificates and rewards for the time, service and contributions I've made to my school over the last six years. I've grown so much closer to many members of my family and to friends. I've found a new love (going strong for eight months now). After almost six years, I cut off my dreads. And I've begun the ongoing mission of freeing myself from all the things that used to tie me down. I know I've probably forgotten some things but that's a pretty good summary.

As for the next phase, let's see.... Continuing on with my mission of physical fitness (not only losing weight but striving to be healthier in general). Starting my new job as an Application Systems Analyst in the next three weeks (I'm excited)! I get to go back home. (You know, it doesn't matter where you go or how long you stay there. Nothing beats home.) Finding and then moving into my own apartment. Continuing to write one (if not both) of the novels I've been neglecting. As always more poetry. Hopefully some performances in and around the DC area. Making some new friends, catching up with some old ones. And becoming a better blogger. And whatever else comes up. Oh yeah, and I can't forget about this one.... Taking a real vacation--away from everything (I don't even want to take my laptop, let alone my cellphone).

You know I've actually been so busy that I missed the true one-year anniversary of my blog.... The real date was July 10th.... But as they say, it's better late than never! A celebration is a celebration! Oh well, sleep calls.... Got to go to the gym in the morning!

Hot Summertime Fun, Peace and Love to all!

You Ain't Got No Home Buddah!!!

Funny as it sounds, that's how it feels. Traveling, traveling. It's a good thing. But it's very tiring. In the last two-and-a-half months, I've been to Seattle, Montreal, DC, San Jose/Mountain View, and Rochester. Mostly for job interviews. I went to Montreal for a week in April to attend the SIGCHI Conference on Human Factors in Computing Systems (more about that later).

I'm heading back to DC for another job interview next week (YAY I get to go home!). Then back to Rochester. And the following week I may be heading to Pittsfield, MA for another interview. It's crazy. As soon as I drop my bags and get comfortable it's time to pack those bags and board the plane again!

As I mentioned above, I had the opportunity to attend the SIGCHI Conference on Human Factors in Computing Systems in Montreal back in April. This is the annual conferernce for the Human Computer Interaction community. For those who are wondering, Human Computer Interaction (or HCI) is a field of computing which focuses on the interaction between people and computers. One of its main goals is to improve the interaction between people and computers by developing computing systems that efficient, effective, easy to use, and easy to understand. And most importantly, that computing systems meet the needs of the people who use them. It's a multidisciplinary field that depends heavily on computer science, information science, cognitive science, anthropology, ergonomics, psychology, and sociology to name a few.

At the conference, there were several presentations, workshops, courses, and discussions devoted to recent innovations and developments within the HCI community. It was a wonderful experience for networking and learning about what other students, researchers, and practitioners are doing in the field. I was one of several student volunteers there. And I had a blast! Got to party a little bit. Got to meet a lot of new people. And I got to talk with several employers about possible job opportunities in their HCI departments. I even got to attend hospitality events in some of the local hotels sponsored by employers such as Microsoft, Google, eBay, and IBM. The Conference is held in a different location each year and usually lasts about five days. Next year it will be in San Jose, CA. I'd really love to go next year. But it all depends upon the money! I guess if I start saving now, I might be able to make it.

Other than that, I'm chillin' like a villain up in Da ROC. I've been listening to a lot of Chaka Khan and Phyllis Hyman lately. They are two of my all-time favorite vocalists. Both of whom I've been listening to and loving since I was very young.


Chaka Khan recently received a Lifetime Achievement Award at the BET Awards. Much deserved and long overdue if you ask me. I've been bumping the following albums: Chaka, I Feel For You, Come 2 My House, Classikhan, The Best of Rufus & Chaka Khan, and Epiphany: The Best of Chaka Khan, Vol. 1. Word on the street is that she's been working with Jimmy Jam and Terry Lewis on a new album. Sounds like it's going to be hot! I'll be first in line to get it when it drops.


Phyllis Hyman is yet another consummate artist who never received the acclaim and accolades she rightly deserved. I've been playing the following over and over again: Phyllis Hyman, You Know How To Love Me, Living All Alone, The Prime of My Life, and The Legacy of Phyllis Hyman. It would be nice if she were inducted into the Grammy Hall of Fame or received a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame even. (If Britney Spears has a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame, why not?) Though she's no longer with us, her legacy continues to live on. Now that I think of it, it would also be nice if Arista/BMG would re-release all of her earlier albums from 1977 - 1983. There's no doubt in my mind that there's an audience out here who craves them. I wrote a poem in tribute to Phyllis a few years back. Since her birthday is approaching, I may put it up. She would've been 57 this year.

Until later, hope you all have a great weekend!