Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Day 30: Obligation & Convenience in Relationships

Two things that can keep someone in a relationship are convenience and obligation.  After a particular span of time, people get complacent.  They become very comfortable with where they are.  Even when they know they deserve better - they stay.  They'd rather suffer than make the move on to something better suited for themselves.  They also may be weary of hurting their mates feelings.  And they may be feeling that staying (because of the time put in - amongst other things) is what they're supposed to do.  Well, you've got to think about your heart.  If after all this time things still haven't changed or don't look like they will change - it's time to go.  Doesn't matter what or who you're leaving behind.  Happiness and joy are not worth your accommodating someone who is not meant for you.  Why suffer in silence?  Put yourself first.

1 comment:

E said...

That is so me. Sometimes it feels like it's easier to deal with the problems you know than to leave for the unknown. And sometimes that is what you have to do...I mean you can't leave a job for example everytime someone pisses you off, otherwise you'd be looking for a new job every week...but at the same time, there does come a point when we have to realize if a problem won't go away no matter how many times you try to fix it, it may be time to reevaluate our priorities and whether or not we'd be better off elsewhere.